Surviving to Flourishing- Part 4: Making Plans

This is the day to make some solid, possibly drastic, plans to get out of survival mode! I’ve already done this and I can assure you that it’s worth it. I’m so excited for each of you! I really encourage you to get out a pen and paper and write down your answers for each step.

So far, we’ve looked at where we’ve been stuck, we’ve given ourselves a reality check and a vision, we’ve done the necessary prep work and now we’re going to make the plans that can get us where we want to be!

If you haven’t done those steps, you can find them here:

Part 1: Background/My Story Part 2: Where to Start Part 3: Prep for Change

Your instinct is probably going to be that you feel like you have to keep doing every single thing you have been doing. Don’t do it. Rather […]

Surviving to Flourishing- Part 3: Prep for Change

Part One: My Story Part Two: Where to Start Part Three: Prep for Change (this post)

I know that many of you are so sick of just surviving that you want to jump in with both feet and change everything! 🙂 Good for you!! Before you hit the ground running, it’s worth it to take just a little time, thought and prayer to make sure you don’t fizzle out after a week or two.

In my journey from surviving to flourishing (and I’m not completely there quite yet!) I found that every time I got frustrated with how things were and made a snap decision to change, I failed. I hadn’t thought it all through, made my plans and really committed to it. My heart was in it at the moment, but there was no staying power to my changes.

How did I finally start making changes that lasted? […]

A Christian Review of “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”

I doubt there are many people out there who haven’t at least heard of Marie Kondo’s book. “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” has been safely camped out on bestseller lists everywhere and has been translated into several languages. It has, what has been described as, a cult-like following. Kondo isn’t a Christian, so that cult-like following can make us believers a little leery of her wildly popular book. We all know that just because something is popular, doesn’t mean it’s good. I’d like to offer a Christian perspective on the “KonMari” Method so that you can make a wise decision about whether or not it would be a good resource for you.

What is it About?

Marie Kondo offers a new method of decluttering (which she named the “KonMari Method”) that she claims trumps all the other decluttering out there. Rather […]

Surviving to Flourishing- Part 2: Where to Start

I shared last time about what the last 9 years of living in survival mode has looked like for me. Obviously, I didn’t share every little thing, just the highlights and nothing too personal or private. You get the idea, though. I understand the hanging-on-by-my-fingernails feeling. It’s not just you!

If you’ve realized that you’re living your life in survival mode, where do you start to make real changes? If you’re so used to just pushing through your days, it can be hard to even imagine anything different.

Step One: Give Yourself a Reality Check

In survival mode, everything can seem to be absolutely necessary. It can seem like we ought to be able to just get it all done. Often, though, the amount of things we’re trying to cram into our days isn’t anywhere close to reasonable- especially in survival mode!

Take a few minutes to do this […]

Surviving to Flourishing- Part 1: My Story

I haven’t “arrived” in the land of flourishing, but I have come so far this last year. If you feel like you’re just surviving your way through your life, I’d love to encourage you by sharing what I’ve learned, changed and planned to get out of survival mode and into a more meaningful, intentional and peaceful way of living.

My Background

Although it may seem like it at times, I haven’t always lived in survival mode. My life used to be very well balanced between active and restful, social time and alone time, work and fun… it just didn’t seem that hard to say to myself, “Hey, I’ve been out and about a lot this week. I need to get more sleep and spend some time alone to recharge.” That was back before I had my wonderful girls, my successful business, our farmhouse fixer-upper and several health […]

It’s Okay to Let Things Go

A new year is just around the corner and it’s time to slow down and think about where we are in life and what we might need to change. My husband and I like to spend the week between Christmas and the New Year evaluating where we’ve been and where we’re going. In 2016, there are a lot of things we’ll be letting go to make room for better things! Here are some thoughts we’ve been kicking around- hope they help you, too…

Do you hang on to things? Not just possessions, but also relationships, situations, habits, memories, goals, commitments and things like that? I do. That purse that I’ve used twice since I bought it 5 years ago? Saved it. That board book that my older daughter loved and my younger daughter tried to eat, which is now torn up and has obvious teeth marks? Saved it. That […]

For the Mama Who Doesn’t Have Enough Hours in Her Day

I’ve recently seen a quote floating around about how we all have the same number of hours in our day and so saying, “I don’t have time,” is not an acceptable reason not to do something. I get it. I really do. The problem with it though is that although we all have the same number of hours, we also all have different responsibilities, priorities and demands on that time.

Often I “don’t have time” for something and it’s actually a matter of it not being at the top of my priority list. Other times, though, I really do want to do something, it’s on my priority list (not at the tippy-top, but it is on there!) and I truly can’t do it. For the longest time I was frustrated with myself for not being able to get all my priorities done. I cut all the extras out of […]

The REAL Truth About Blogging

Every time I turn around I’m seeing more and more people flocking to the blogging world. Most people assume that having a blog must be a good thing. Here’s the deal. Blogging is not good. It’s also not bad. In and of itself, blogging has absolutely no moral status. It simply is.

Blogging can be a job… it can be a hobby. It can be a ministry… it can also be an idol. It can be a great thing for your family… or it can distract you from the most important people in your life. It can help you be more intentional about how you spend your time… it can suck away all your time and energy so that you do little else. It can help you connect with like-minded people and develop online relationships… it can pull you so far into those superficial relationships that you […]

Change 3 Challenge

Take a moment to think about three fairly small changes you’ve been wanting to make in your life. Nothing huge. Just three things that you know would make a difference. Things for your health, your relationships, your attitude, your daily routine, your home… whatever you have thought, “I really ought to…” but never have done.

Now, take a month and commit to doing those three things just for this month. It may be that by the end of the month you decide that not all three are permanent changes you want to make, but the ones that really do help will be a habit. Then next month, you can pick three new little things to change. How might your life be different in a year?

I’ll share my three things for this month (November 2014) and then offer some ideas to inspire you. Please consider leaving a comment with […]

Facebook “Friends” are Not Enough

I know, I know. It’s wonderful to find like-minded people from all over the world. It’s encouraging to be in contact with people we can relate to and that we “get.” It’s so easy to keep in contact with old friends and even to find people that we knew years ago. It’s convenient to keep our families up-to-date on the happenings of our little family unit by posting pictures and status updates of the kiddos. But, sweet reader, it isn’t enough.

I’m not saying you should unlike all your Facebook “friends” like this brave lady did, though I think she has made a wonderful choice! I’m not saying that Facebook is wrong or evil or anything like that, though it certainly has the potential to be any of those things. I’m saying that we all need more.

We need the in-person, flesh-and-blood, real-life people to experience life with in […]