Meltdown Prevention Parenting

Have you ever noticed that it seems like your kids can tell when you don’t quite have all your ducks in a row? Even when I make a concerted effort to *act* organized, they still seem to sense that I don’t have my feet under me. When they sense that lack of preparation, it seems to affect their own attitudes and actions.

Commence Meltdown!

When I’m not on top of things, feeling calm, cool and collected, my girls have trigger-fingers on their meltdown buttons. They each melt in their own way (one crumples, the other screams), but it is amazing to see them gearing up for it. They sense my stress, hurry, impatience or frustration and they react exactly the opposite way of what I need! What’s up with that?? When I really, really need them to just go with the flow and obey quickly, that’s when […]

Setting the Atmosphere of the Home

 

I am very excited about this post. These are three things that help me get perspective and really make a difference in my family. Do you remember my post back in January about controlling emotions? This is a bit of a follow-up and I can tell you that these three things really have been a key for me!

“We have all heard the saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” Horrid grammar, but it’s so true. We ladies have the power to set the atmosphere in our homes.” Read the rest of this post over at A Biblical Marriage and be sure to subscribe and “like” that fantastic blog, while you’re there! 🙂

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Teaching According to Readiness and Interest

With the huge focus the last several years on teaching babies and very young toddlers how to read, I think there are many parents out there feeling inadequate if their preschooler isn’t already breezing through books. Our culture tends to equate education and accomplishment with worth. If a child is “behind” most of the other children his age, it is often seen as an indication that something is “wrong” with him. In many situations, the child is treated as though he has failed.

I am concerned about this mentality. Yes, when a child has real developmental delays, they need to be addressed. My concern is with assuming that just because we *can* teach a very young child to read (or whatever other developmental milestone), that it means that we *should*.

Always Learning

From the time a baby in his mother’s womb becomes aware of his surroundings, […]

“Listen To Me With Your Eyes”

My mom tells a story about when I was about three. I was babbling on about something (me?? babble?? 😉 ) and she was giving me the “uh-huh” and “hmm..” replies. I stopped my story, got her attention and told her to “listen to my with your eyes!”

We’ve all done it, haven’t we? Our little ones have been jabbering on and on and eventually, we get distracted. We’re still partway listening, but our main focus is someplace else. There are so many important things to do. There is so much to decide, remember and organize. Our brains are just busy places! Important things need to be done.

But then, a precious little soul wants to connect with us. Sure, the topic of conversation might not be the deepest one. What the imaginary monkey said at the pretend tea party isn’t exactly a headline story… to us. To that little […]

Honest Parents, Honest Children

I am concerned. I just read some comments on Facebook about parents “sneaking” healthy food into their children. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for healthy food. It’s the premise behind the “sneaking” that concerns me. These parents aren’t just using good ingredients, many of them are going so far as to lie to their children or intentionally deceive them. One suggests that a mom of a picky teen pour out cheap milk and refill the container with raw whole milk.

What I want to know is, how honest do these parents want their children to be with them? Do they expect their children to be more honest than they are? Do they really think that telling a child a lie “for their own good” is really good?? Don’t they understand that their children will learn so much more from what their parents do than what their parents tell them […]

October Blog-Share: Are You Ready for Another One?

Have you been asked this question about being “ready” for having more children? I’ve noticed that when I had just one child, the question was, “Are you ready for another one?”. Now that I have two, it’s switched to, “Are you done or do you plan to have more?”. Of course, the way that these questions are asked makes a huge difference. Danielle from More Than Four Walls talks about the mindset behind the negatively asked questions.

“Why do people talk about children like this? Like they are burdens?

I hear this most often from people who actually have children…

Having children is like touching heaven. It’s a glimpse of God’s goodness.”

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October Blog-Share: 10 Tips for a New Baby

When you’re sleep-deprived and overwhelmed, a post like this can be a lifesaver! Take a deep breath and read what Sara from Your Thriving Family suggests! 🙂

“Being a parent is your new career and the first few months are going to be filled with adjustment. You WILL make mistakes and your plans and schedules WILL go awry. Learn as you go and constantly asking and seeking advice will now be a way of life. After all, we want to do what’s best for our little blessings.

Even if this isn’t your first, these will help you get in the mindset. Here are a few things you can avoid before the chaos, that is your new life, begins!…”

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Little Girls, Barbies and “Dress-up”

*Disclaimer: If you’re already preparing to tell me that you grew up playing with Barbies and have had no issues whatsoever with body image, please read the full post with an open mind and try to hear me out. This isn’t a post of judgement, it’s a call to prayerfully consider God’s heart on the subject. I grew up with Barbies, too, and I actually remember thinking that someday I would be “beautiful” like them. I am all grown up and I am far from having a figure like that! I believe that feminine and innocent “dress-up” is much, much healthier for the shaping of a little girl’s heart. 🙂

Our four-year-old, Pumpkin, loves to dress-up. She is so enthusiastic that she already has our not-quite-ten-month-old, Babykins, trying to do it! We keep a big stash of dress-up items available, but we are very careful of what we include. Most […]

Colossians Study Memory Verse: Week 2

With only a little prompting, Pumpkin (our four-year-old) can recite last week’s verse! She, my hubby and I are doing our own verse memorization challenge to go along with the Good Morning Girls Colossians study. Even if you aren’t doing the study, we’d like to invite you to join in our own little challenge and store up some of God’s Word in your heart! We are choosing verses and parts of verses that aren’t too long for young children, so involve your kiddos, too. 🙂 Here’s the verse for this week…

Check out the post for week one for tips to make memorization easier for kids (and grown-ups, too)! Feel free to use your favorite Bible translation. You’ll also be able to find this picture on my Facebook page, if you’d like to share it.

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Colossians Study Memory Verse: Week 1

Whether or not you are joining Good Morning Girls in their study on Colossians, I’d love to have you join our family in memorizing some verses from Colossians! I have been inspired by the Scripture Memory Challenge at Intentional By Grace. Our eldest daughter (4 1/2) loves learning the verses and I know that these little pieces of God’s Word tucked away in her heart will be a blessing to her for the rest of her life! In fact, the first verse she learned was Psalms 119:11 “I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”

For the Colossians study, I’ve decided to choose a short verse or a smaller chunk of a longer verse to memorize each week with our four-year-old (her blogging name is “Pumpkin”). Only the first verse is directed specifically towards children. The rest are for all of us. […]