I know from experience that a rigid homemaking schedule just doesn’t work for me, but I also know that having no plan at all doesn’t work out too well, either. 😉 What I need are flexible guidelines. I need a routine that fits in with the natural flow of our day. This is the plan that I have found to work for us!
Working with the rhythm of your day
Before having children, my days had a very different rhythm to them. It worked well, but not anymore. I needed to step back, figure out my current priorities and fit those priorities into my days as a mama of two.
Here’s what I saw when I stepped back and looked at the rhythm in my days.
- Wake and Breakfast
- Coffee/Choffy time with Hubby (I’ll post about that) 🙂
- Morning Chores
- Afternoon Chores
- Dinner Prep
- Eat and Clean Up Dinner
- Evening Routine
- Girls in Bed
- Time with Hubby
It looks like I actually have TIME in there, doesn’t it?! 😉 Okay, now I merge my priorities with the rhythm of my typical day.
- Wake up.
- Start load of laundry.
- Make breakfast, empty dishwasher and dish drainer.
- Dinner prep (pull out meat to thaw, get food in the crock-pot when needed, etc.) and clean kitchen.
- Laundry into dryer.
- Chores (bathrooms, floors, etc.)
- Lunch for all and any further dinner prep.
- Fold/hang up laundry.
- Any special projects.
- Dinner prep
- Kitchen clean-up and start dishwasher.
- Clutter clean-up.
- Bedtime for the girls.
- Time with my Hubby.
I know that looks like I’m going non-stop, but that’s just to give you all a good picture of how it all flows together. There is some time in there for quiet time/Bible study, journaling, short naps and other things. I’d like to stress again that this is a routine to help me keep on track, not a schedule written in stone that I need to feel guilty over when it just doesn’t work out. My routine works for me, I don’t work for it. On grocery shopping days, this will all go right out the window and that’s okay! On my hubby’s days off, I’ll do a low-key version to help keep the house running smoothly, but I’m not going to stress over flexing a bit so that we can all enjoy family time together.
You might notice that I did, however, try to make a special effort towards dinner preparation. I really struggle with remembering to pull out the meat and get things ready in time.
I am also limiting my blogging time to certain windows in the day. As much as I enjoy my blogging and consider it a ministry, I love my children more and my family is my first ministry. I don’t want my girls to remember their mama as a busy blogger, I want them to remember me as an engaged mother.
I’d also like to mention that my girls are with me and helping with all the chores. The most important thing I can do at home all day with my girls isn’t to keep a spotless home, it’s to build a relationship with each of them so that they can see God’s love through me. When I wrote down my “priorities”, I wrote down the practical to-do items, but those things aren’t my reason and motivation.
Sometimes we can get stuck in survival mode and establishing a routine seems overwhelming. If that’s you, follow along on my “Surviving to Flourishing” series for step-by-step help to get out of survival mode and back to living your life!