Before our first daughter was born, I was a stay-at-home wife. I had a nice and relaxed homemaking routine that worked beautifully. Enter baby number one. That pre-baby routine flew out the window and it took me a few months to get my feet back under me (especially with some unknown health problems dragging me down). Finally, I found a new routine that fit well with my new baby. She woke, ate and slept at regular intervals and I was able to include her in some things and work other things into her nap schedule.
Then, I had baby number two. This darling little whirlwind wasn’t a good sleeper until almost 2-years-old and she gave up naps really early, so my former routine got tossed out the window… again. For the longest time I felt like I was spinning my wheels just trying to manage some crisis control. Instead of being a “keeper of my home”, I felt like I was a one-person “relief team” in a national disaster area! (I do have to jump in here and give brownie points to my amazing hubby for helping out around the house so much!!)
I knew that living in survival mode wasn’t getting me anywhere. The very first thing I needed to do was prioritize what needed doing. (If you are going to follow along and establish a homemaking routine, be sure to create your own list of priorities! We’re all in different seasons of life and circumstances, so your list may be very different from mine.) I recommend asking your husband what his top priorities are. You might be surprised! If you’ve been neatly folding his socks, but what he really would love is to have a de-cluttered living room when he gets home from work, you might be wasting time and energy. Here’s what I need to get done for my household to run smoothly.
- Meals: We don’t eat processed food, which means we have to be intentional about meal planning, grocery shopping and prep.
- Dishes: The slightest bit of neglect in this area leads to a mountain of dirty dishes and all of us eating oatmeal out of coffee cups (tell me it’s not just our house where this happens!), so I have to keep this close to the top.
- Laundry: Wearing dirty underwear is not fun. Enough said.
- Clutter: Before kids, my hubby and I would clean up all clutter at 8PM, then have a nice relaxing evening. Loved it! This is my hubby’s big request, so I will be tackling the clutter at least once a day! 🙂
- Bathrooms: Dirty bathrooms are just so disgusting and I’ve been guilty of neglecting ours for way too long! The good new is that I have learned to clean it (minus the shower/tub) in just SEVEN MINUTES! 😉
- Floors: We have all hard-surface floors in our little 1940’s hobby farm house, so every speck of dirt (and there are a lot of specks on a hobby farm, people!) shows instantly. Sweeping and vacuuming have to happen at least twice a week to keep the floors from getting grimy. I’m aiming for daily in the near future.
- Meal Planning: When I meal plan, we have healthy and nutritious food. When I don’t, it’s not pretty.
- Kitchen: I would like to do a deep clean every week (clean out and wipe out the fridge, wipe splatters from the walls, mop, etc.).
Even more important than those daily and weekly house-keeping tasks, I have two precious little girls that need love and attention, so I try to keep that in mind when planning out my days.
Our next step will be setting our routines to work with the natural rhythms of our days!
Sometimes we can get stuck in survival mode and establishing a routine seems overwhelming. If that’s you, follow along on my “Surviving to Flourishing” series for step-by-step help to get out of survival mode and back to living your life!