Some of you are bloggers, some aren’t. Those of you who aren’t probably have no idea what happens behind the scenes for each and every one of the lovely blogs you read, or how much time those things take. Those who are, you are well aware that there is a “right” way to blog, according to the “experts” of the field. It requires constant blog growth, constant attention and maintenance, constant social media activity… Well, I’m sick and tired of constantly doing it the “right” way. As you may know, I think that the “right” way is often wrong.
I began blogging because I was passionate about sharing what I was learning about home birth, natural remedies, real food and all the other things happening in my life. I was especially eager to create a community where Christian mamas could learn about herbs without having to resort to some New Age site. Christian natural living sites were few and far between when I began blogging over two years ago. Now, you can find hundreds of these wonderful sites! I’m thrilled to have helped pave the way… but…
I’m finding that the “right” way to blog is now about competition. As a blogger, nearly every post I write is in competition for your attention. There are so many other bloggers who are out there saying many of the same things. There are so many bloggers out there with “virtual assistants” to help them, because their blogs are so big and busy that they can’t keep up with everything on their own (by the way, there’s nothing wrong with virtual assistants, but it’s not the answer for me). The “point” of blogging (according to the experts) is to grow bigger to make more money. Well, if that’s the point, then I QUIT. At least, I quit when it comes to doing it “the right way.”
The “right” way is about far more than just writing a post that I hope will bless my readers. The “right” way is about visits per month, pageviews, social networking, numbers of shares, numbers of “likes”, number, numbers, numbers. But you are not just numbers! You are wives. You are mamas. You are human beings. And so am I.
I am missing out on my life while I blog about living. I’m busy “growing” my blog, when I should be busy growing my children up in the Lord. I’m making decisions on how to spend my time based on whether or not my blog will benefit, rather than whether my family will benefit. This is wrong.
When I first started blogging, I had anywhere from 15-25 hours a week of “free” time. Both my girls napped for a few hours every afternoon. My hubby had a job where he often worked well past their 8PM bedtime, so I had time to burn then, too. Now, my eldest has homeschool while my youngest naps and my hubby is home well before their bedtime (yay!!!!). The season in my life when I could spend 20-30+ hours a week blogging (and, yes, that’s what it takes to “do it right”) is over.
So, am I shutting down Creative Christian Mama? Nope. But it will be changing. I will have one “computer day” per week. That will include writing posts, editing photos, replying to e-mails, answering questions/comments, updating Facebook (did you know we bloggers can pre-schedule things on Facebook?? Cool, huh??) and doing any necessary blog maintenance (all that yucky behind the scenes stuff). You, dear readers, might not even notice all that much of a change, but it will be very different for my family. My girls will see my face all day, rather than the back of my head.
For you, the things you might notice are that I will not be able to answer every question or comment, though I love to hear from you! Those that I do get to answer will probably not be answered in a timely fashion. It’s not because you’re not important, but because I will only be dropping into the social media scene (what I call the “bloggy world”) once a week. I want to write for you and I can’t do that if I’m busy answering countless e-mails, questions and requests every day. I will be keeping my online store open and we even have plans to expand it and make it into a part-time family business! That is something that I can include my girls (and even my hubby) in, so it’s a blessing for you and for my family!
If you might not even really notice a difference, then why am I telling you all this? First, because I don’t want you to think I’m ignoring you. Most importantly, though, is that I want to encourage you to take a close look at how you’re spending your time and see if you need to make some changes, too. Whether you run a blog (for profit, or not), read blogs, spend lots of time on Facebook, spend hours a day watching TV, keep your smart phone in front of your face… whatever you’re spending your time on, make sure it’s what you really should be doing. Do what matters. In twenty years, few of you will remember much about me, but my children will remember how I spent their childhoods. I don’t want them to remember me with my face glued to the computer screen. They are too important for that. So are your children, mamas.
Blessings to all of you!