Lifeless Babies and Broken Mamas

That title pretty much tells you that this won’t be one of my typical posts. You all know that I’m not a “shock them with controversy” kind of girl. I don’t often even mention politics and I hate confrontation. I like for everybody to get along, be happy and enjoy learning new things with me! So, what’s up with that title??

I checked my e-mail a few minutes ago. My dear bloggy friend Erin at The Humbled Homemaker sent out a post and I was just getting around to reading it. My Facebook fast has me a bit out of touch, so I didn’t know what I was getting into when I opened the e-mail. Abortion.

The word makes me flinch. It makes my heart ache, not just for all the babies, but for their broken and hurting mamas, too. I know that many people react to the horrors of abortion with condemnation and hate for the women who have chosen that path, but I see women who have to have been in a very lonely, scary, dark place to have even considered such a thing. My heart breaks for the murdered babies, but my heart hurts for those mamas, too.

I don’t say this to imply that killing a pre-born baby is somehow a “less bad” murder than killing anybody else. It is still murder. Babies are being killed and there is no excuse. There is no justification. It is not a decision for a woman to make- ending the life of the baby inside of her. It’s not “her choice because it’s her body”. It’s the babies body that gets thrown into a trashcan and that baby was murdered.

What I’m saying here is that most women that I know of who have had abortions are living under crushing guilt and condemnation. They *know* that what they did was wrong. What they need is the hope of forgiveness through repentance. They need to be forgiven, just like we all do, and they won’t turn to God if we, His people, don’t show them His love. I don’t see a woman killing her own child as “less bad” than killing a stranger. If there were a scale of sins (which there isn’t!), I’d put it much higher up than any other murders. They have killed the very person that they were most responsible to protect. That’s exactly why these women need compassion even more than other people, in my opinion. They need to know that God’s salvation is for them, too.

Erin’s post was courageous and compassionate. It was a call to stand up, speak out and stop doing nothing. There is a trial happening right now involving an abortion doctor named Kermit Gosnell who has been accused of brutally murdering babies who were born alive. It’s gruesome and shocking, but it is exactly what has been happening to pre-born babies for decades. The story has been suppressed in most of the media, so I will share a link to it here. Please, prepare yourself before you read this. It is horrifying.

This is a “holocaust”, just as Erin called it. Innocent babies are being murdered. We must say something. We must do something. But what??

Do and Say All Things In LOVE

It is so easy to react to the heartbreak in the wrong way. Condemnation will never, ever change a person’s heart. God’s kindness leads us to repentance, so let’s show that kindness and love to these women. Both to those who might consider abortion and to those who already have followed through with it. Make sure your heart is “in the right place” before you say anything to anybody about abortion. If your words are coming from a place of “what a horrible sin!” so that your own sins look less horrible, don’t say a word. Say and do only what will show the love of God.

Be Practical

So many young women and teens are pressured into abortions because they are told that they can’t afford to have a baby. Let’s work to provide for their needs and their babies’ needs.

  • Donate pregnancy and baby items to a Christian crisis pregnancy center.
  • Initiate an offering at church for a crisis pregnancy center or to help pay maternity care bills for women in need.
  • See if any crisis pregnancy centers in your area need volunteers and invite other like-minded people to come with you.
  • Support families who are trying to adopt.
  • If you know somebody personally, be there to support and encourage.

Be Political

I. hate. politics. I’d rather talk about clogged toilets or toenail fungus, but when it comes time to vote, I am there and I am voting according to my faith. When it comes time to speak up about things like this, I take a deep breath and say what needs saying. I don’t drown myself in the political debates and news shows, but I make sure that I am voting for men and women who will defend the defenseless.

Be Persistent

Yes, this is a depressing and painful topic, but we need to keep speaking up for those without a voice. We need to show mamas that they have a choice and they have people willing and ready to help them. We need to stick with it and keep going, exhausting as this long road is. We can’t just give up and allow those who murder babies to continue unopposed. Say something. Do something. Just be sure that it’s all done in *love*.

I’d like to end this post by sharing this beautiful story of redemption by Jacqueline at Deep Roots at Home.

8 thoughts on “Lifeless Babies and Broken Mamas

  1. Chris Wheeler says:

    This a tough and heartbreaking topic. Thank you for having the courage to speak out…and very well said. I love your ideas on ways to help and when I get to my new home town, I’m going to look into several of these ideas. My heart and prayers go out to the babies and to the hurting mamas.

  2. Justyn,
    Your post has alerted me that I am slightly out of the loop, as well. This trial was new to me until just this afternoon, and now you are posting on it. I am so thankful we have a Savior who can take all the brokenness and replace it with a sweet balm of forgiveness. It is my prayer that many of these Mamas (like myself) will receive the love and comfort of Christ that is waiting for them after reading your post.

    • Jacqueline,
      I love that you had the courage to share your story with us all and that it shows not only the heartbreaking parts, but the healing in your life. You are such a sweet lady and I’m so blessed to have been able to get to know you a bit through the blog world. 🙂 Thank you so much!

  3. I couldn’t agree more and just commented about this in response to a comment on my FB page – it’s very important that we exemplify compassionate toward those who have made this choice in the past and share the redemption that is found in Christ Jesus. The power of salvation in and through Him can take each of our broken self-filled lives and turn them a beautiful reflection of the peace and joy that can only be found through life in Him. Christ promises us that He can work all things for good to them who love the Lord (Romans 8:28).

    • Thanks so much for commenting, Kelly. I love that: “a beautiful reflection of the peace and joy that can only be found through life in Him”!! So true. 🙂

  4. I was a fifteen year old, and causing much heartache for my christian parents. Drugs and alcohol were a common factor in my day. I called my aunt during this year to tell her that I thought I was pregnant. I was scared. She was very liberal and very much a feminist….and I loved her and looked up to her more than anyone else. She very “matter of factly” told me, “If you are, I will take you across the Georgia line, and I will pay for you to have an abortion.” That was something that had never entered my mind, I was so scared though, I was ready to do it.

    Thank God….I was not pregnant. It makes me cringe to think about what I was willing to do because I was so afraid.

    I hurt for the young girls and women in this situation. I hurt for the babies that are slaughtered everyday.

    Two years later…I ended up pregnant and unwed. Oddly enough, abortion never was a thought. Our daughter just turned 26 yeats old, and her Daddy and I have had 11 more children and we have our 13 th on the way.

    • Thanks so very much for sharing your story, Angela! Hearing stories like that makes it so easy to understand how a girl could end up in that situation and making that decision. I really appreciate you sharing with us.

      Congratulations on your new little one on the way!! 🙂

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