Proverbs 31 Lady: The Real Ideal? part two

Do you feel discouraged by the Proverbs 31 lady? Does she seem like an impossible standard that you can never live up to? Before you give up on being “good enough” let’s take a closer look at her! 🙂

We already talked about how that list isn’t really about what she does, it’s about her heart. It’s about why and how she does what she does. Be sure to start over there at that post if you missed it and then come back here.

The second big thing to keep in mind with this lady is that we don’t have to be crazy busy to be “virtuous” women! After reading that long list of things she does, we can start comparing our to-do lists with her big ol’ list. Don’t do it! Remember that this list isn’t a play book for us, it’s a description that is meant to inspire and encourage us. Nowhere is there a homework assignment that will have us working 18 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Yes, if you read Proverbs 31 you will see enough listed there to keep a woman that busy. But do you really think that the the Bible meant that a woman would do all those things all at once? This description covers a woman’s entire life. This isn’t a snapshot of a single day. It stretches over all the seasons of her life. We all have seasons in our lives that are busier, but we aren’t being told to make ourselves insanely busy.

Ladies, life ebbs and flows. Some times are peaceful, calm and quiet. Other times we have so much on our plates that we aren’t even able to name everything. Neither time is better than the other. In Ecclesiastes we see that there is a time for everything. We are no less “virtuous” in the quiet before the storm than we are when we’re in the midst of the storm. Being busy doesn’t mean being holy.

Whatever season of life you are in, don’t think you are a more or less holy person just because of how busy you are. If life is calm and quiet, savor it! Drink in the peace and recharge so that you are ready when it gets a little crazy in the next season.

If you feel like you are drowning in the insanity, take your to-do list to God and let Him whittle it down where it needs it. Try to find joy in the buzzing activity until you get to the next season when you can recharge and rest.

Remember, it’s about our hearts. The amount of activity in our lives doesn’t indicate how close we are to God. Don’t be busy because it makes you look and feel more “virtuous” and don’t allow yourself to be lazy when you are in a quiet season. Make the most of every season and strive to find some balance in each.

When it’s a calm season, we need to check our hearts and see how God want to grow and strengthen us. Maybe it’s through a special Bible study or building a new relationship. Maybe we need to learn something new or help somebody who is going through the storms.

During our own storms, we need to find little pockets of time to rest. We need to let God shape our attitudes and feelings about the craziness in our lives. Maybe we need to learn to be thankful for the people who contribute to the craziness. Maybe we need to learn how to give some grace to other people during their storms.

We need to learn what it means to be a “virtuous” lady in each season and not try to force all our seasons to be busy so that we look and feel more virtuous. Let’s be thankful for the seasons we are in and show ourselves and each other a little more grace. I’m sure the Proverbs 31 Lady would! 😉

Proverbs31LadyOur next topic about this lady I want to focus on is that she is a working mama. Watch for that one, soon!

Do you see the Proverbs 31 Lady a little bit differently, now? Does realizing that that huge list of her accomplishments spans her entire life make it less intimidating? I’d love to hear about what season you are in and how you are striving to be a “virtuous” woman in this season!


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2 thoughts on “Proverbs 31 Lady: The Real Ideal? part two

  1. Megan says:

    Thank you so much for this post! I’ve been saddened by the number of times I’ve heard women being berated- and berating each other!- on this issue. It would be an amazing thing if homemakers could come together in support of one another. Can you imagine how beautiful the world could be if this happened?

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