So, why do we make our own rules to follow and try to perfect ourselves? I think it’s because we know that something is missing. Instead of being content to choose one out of many good ways to do something, we make it a moral issue so that we can feel we’ve done something “right” when we accomplish it. But, more often than not, we fail. Guilt follows and we make more rules… it won’t work. The need we are trying to fill isn’t for more rules, but for renewed minds. When we become believers, we are new creatures and we know that that should mean our lives change, right? So, we try to make it happen. We take on burdens we were never meant to carry. That isn’t what God asks of us. He wants us to draw close to Him, to let His Word of Truth renew our minds. The more we come to know Him, the more we will think like Him. We will value what He values, love what He loves. The way we think will line up with His Word, and out of our changed hearts and thoughts, come our changed words and actions. Our hearts and lives will be pleasing to God, and that is what really matters.
If I am seeking to please God by being a “keeper of the home”, is there really a “right” way to do household chores? Of course not! There are so many wonderful ladies out there who share all of their brilliant ideas on different ways to do things, and I love to learn about more “good” ways that I can choose from, but I’ve stopped seeing any of them as the only “right” way. I’ve also recently realized that whatever way I have been doing things in the past may not be the best way for me to do them now.
My life is changing with this new little one on the way, and I am getting ready to sit down and reevaluate how I do things. At times, I’ve been very structured; other times, I’ve just done whatever looked like it needed doing. At this point, I need some structure and some do-it-if-it-needs-doing. For example, I’m working on several seasonal weekly menus (complete with shopping lists!) that I can rotate easily for diversity. I’m also tossing around the idea of baking on a certain day of the week. For a long time I always had a brand new two-week menu and shopping list done for each paycheck. That just doesn’t work for me right now, and that’s okay. I plan to try several recipes to freeze for after the baby arrives, but I don’t think once-a-month freezer cooking is the best way for me to go at this point, and that’s okay. Are you getting the idea? 🙂
So, the way my everyday life looks will be very different in a few weeks and I’m excited about it. I’d encourage you ladies to sit down and think about what “right” ways you are living and see if maybe there are some other good options out there that would be better for your life at this point. This blog, as well as several others that I’ve found, can be an encouraging and helpful tool for you! And if you get bogged down in rules and “right” ways, spend a few minutes seeing what God says about that particular thing. You just might find that something you’ve spent your entire life treating as the “right” way is really only just one “good” way out of many!
What kinds of “right” ways have you changed in your life?